Saturday, August 8, 2009

chapter 21 of my life


I came to Bangalore with a open mind and no heart. i did not have any pre-conceived notions for anyone or anything. however,it had been a great journey from America to Bangalore altogether.
learning the hard facts of life in the meanest possible ways and battling with emotions had not been easy. but then, i now feel everything is worth Bangalore.

iijnm has redefined every part of my head and thoughts.The people here are amazing.i want to write about every single person here with me. Right from the first one i met "shikha" to the last one "nisha".

Its just been a month in Bangalore and i feel i have been here forever.Life here is what i wanted all my life.in short "living the life i dreamt of". Independence, responsibility, hectic schedules, friends, fun, photography, editing, news and what not.

One part of me regrets parting the USA but, the other part is glad that i am here. There will be high's and low's in life. there will be times we would need to take drastic steps. there will be times when everything seems like a whirlwind and next moment its just an empty barren land.
but when good times return, they give you the most wonderful lessons of life.

yet another chapter of my life awaits. Here i come!

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

identities created by media.

Since the public reliance on the media presumes some media impact, the Question asked by Communication researchers has not been “do media have An effect,” but rather “how large is the effect?” since we are living with Media and commercials from cradle to grave, it effects our lifestyle and Imposes a way of thinking on us. The images media shows help us relate to It in a way that we hypothetically become the image shown to us. For Instance the success of Barbie was based on exploiting ones physical Insecurity. The very famous Barbie commercial also says “when I grow up, I Will become like Barbie”. Many parents argue that Barbie’s ultra slim figure Represents a ridiculous standard for a body and girls who grow up with Barbie are generally anorexic, trying to match up with the Barbie’s standard. The images of women projected by media are unattainable, unrealistic and Unhealthy.

The article by jean kilbourne reflects how much we are in need of media guidance. This article suggests how manipulating media can be to the target audience. The different ways it affects women and how women are projected in media. Advertisement is a big booming industry which sells goods for multimillion dollar companies and firms. A company invests nearly 1/3 of their net income in advertisements.

Women had always been conscious about what they wear and how they look. No matter what women do, they are not happy with their looks. The dissatisfaction seems to be never ending and the credit goes to media.

The image media has created of modern women is “thin, beautiful, flawless and successful”. The size zero seems to lure all women to stop eating and start burning calories. Ads make us trivial, timid and leave us discontented with our looks and own self. To attain the body like that of a model in the ad we forget what we are and start to live a life of what we are not! To be precise, we behave like a person who we want to be. A survey says that 80% of the women are depressed after reading fashion magazines and left dissatisfied with themselves. And that’s not the end they go for the products which gives them false promises of turning them into what they want to become.

Fashion and media had been going hand in hand ever since. Only way to tell people to buy new products is to tell them they do not have enough. Most women in the ads are generally seen wearing bikinis and clothing good enough to cover their vital parts whereas, in real, women are far better dressed than so called super models. To call a girl “tomboy” is a compliment whereas to call a man “girly” is an insult. The media has formed the frame of our minds so rigid that we are not able to look at a women as anything else than a thing to lust for. The instance of cinema would make much sense as well. Generally the story revolves around the “hero” or put this way the central character is always a male. This makes me wonder if the media is male dominated? Media frames the society and is society male dominated as well?

Media has shaped women’s image as either a object to lust for or a homemaker. Cooking, cleaning and washing which does not fit in our practical lives. Such images of women in media could defame the image of women. Since ads also represent a culture and society it can lead to the misinterpretation of the culture itself.Media can make or break ones identity and image in a society. The power that it carries is huge and truly unmatchable. Ethics is which media must follow.

The images of African Americans, Chinese, Irish and Indians framed by the dominating class were “inferior class”. As explained in the article “white negroes” by Jan Nederveen Peitersedifferent and subordinate groups are not merely described, they are debased, degraded. Perceptions are manipulated in order to enhance and magnify the social distance

In the nineteenth century when the Chinese entered the United States as a cheap labor force they were compared to the blacks as they were the only races working for low wages. They were also looked upon as the enemies of free labor and republicanism and this is how the negroization of Chinese men began.

The images of Chinese male in us mainstream media is villainous and cruel. They are generally depicted as a threat to white women. The main reason was the sense of competition. Chinese were subjected to domestic work which makes their masculinity questionable. Similarly, the Images of Chinese women were also not projected well. It was believed that Chinese women were brought to United States for prostitution since the Chinese men was not allowed to socialize with white women. But it was in fact, a group of young illiterate women who were asked to sign on papers to work in the U.S.

The Chinese woman in mainstream is either shown as gentle soft women or a fierce and powerful woman. These are the stereotypes created by the media.


Based on a research by “Skyler T. Hawk, Ine Vanwesenbeeck, Hanneke de Graaf, Floor Bakker” in November 2006 “Most work on adolescents' contact with sexuality in mainstream media has been framed in terms of media effects upon the sexual self-concepts, attitudes, and behaviors of youth, even when such causality cannot be inferred. Rarely examined are the sexual characteristics of adolescents that may predict contact with sexual media.”

Nothing seems surprising to us on TV. Pornography has become a common term. There would be no one who does not know what it means and media is solely responsible for it. When mainstream media lets us down we do not raise against it but we welcome it or ignore it. Though television has been the predominant.

Focus of much past research, other media sources of information gain importance as individuals age (Steele, 1999).

Viewing media with sexual content has shown, through correlation research, to be positively linked with participants' permissive attitudes toward premarital sex (Calfin, Carroll, & Shmit, 1993; Greeson & Williams, 1986). Studies using correlation methods have supported these findings (Strouse & Buerkel-Rothfuss, 1987; Ward & Rivadeneyra, 1999) and have additionally linked frequency of contact with media with endorsements of more traditional gender norms (Ward & Rivadeneyra, 1999).


With so much to contribute and in so many different ways, media definitely has taken over our lives and the ways we think. It reshapes a person’s identity in relation to his cultural background or it gives him a culture shock forcing him to become someone he is influenced by. With so much to effect on a consumer or audience, the question is, will we escape from effect?

If we were to accept central identities constructed for us within the dominant culture (as reflected by, and reproduced in, the mass media), who would we be? What do we mean by saying “mass- media”? The press, radio, television, the cinema and the record industry has been collectively called as mass media. A dominant culture is one that is able, through economic or political power, to impose its values, language, and ways of behaving on a subordinate culture or cultures. This may be achieved through legal or political suppression of other sets of values and patterns of behavior, or by monopolizing the media of communication. This can also be said as dominants are the ones who set the ground rules for the play. For instance Ireland was known for its education and many kings from England also went there and got educated. Slowly the name Ireland carried diminished and England showed much interest in colonizing it. Hence the Irish were subjected to humiliation.

The peasant who grew paddy was respected and was known as peasant paddy. After the colonization began the Englishmen called the Irish barbaric and savage like and compared them to apes. And a peasant paddy became ape paddy.

A dominant culture imposes its ideas on a sub culture to maintain the social status Or hierarchy. If we accept the central identities which are constructed within a dominant culture for example in United States blacks, Chinese are the known subcultures and are called minorities. All said and done, called a colored person nigger is offensive. The oppression suffered by the minority is heavy and not just. The acceptance of oppression made them suffer which has been marked in the pages of history.

The very act of suppression still persists only because of “zero resistance”.If we were to accept identities constructed for us within the dominant culture we would be a suppressed class of educated individuals who are giving up our rights against fear of something that is created by us humans.


























Tuesday, April 7, 2009

OI - real /unreal??

Of late i had not been blogging so frequently.There are loads of reasons not to but, one reason to blog is the passion.

whenever i think of topics to share with people on my blog, my thoughts go far and wide.
however, i forgot to consider a topic like "orkut". With a virtual world like that where everyone seems to be so real, i had my fair/unfair share of experiences too.
i joined orkut in 2006 april. One of my friends from school invited me to join orkut. I had no idea what it was. As i joined it and as i got aquainted with the way it works i already had added people i did not know ;).

I was 18 years old , doing 2nd year of my undergraduate course. It seemed to be amazing how this Örkut worked. I added people from my college to my list, started to interact with people i had never spoken with in the college.This virtual world opened many doors of the real world.
As days passed i met many amazing people on orkut. One of whom i dated for almost a year :) unfortunately it did not work out but we still are good friends. Vinnan if you happen to read this, you would know what you mean to me.

after a year of using orkut,after we had internet connection installed at our home,i started to use orkut pretty frequently. I was browsing through it every time i had leisure. And then i was invited to join a very popular community known as the örkut iyers aka "oi".

OI had been the single most popular community which had a regular meets almost every weekend. People really connected to each other. The topics and discussions were so interesting that people did not want to leave the computer alone even for a second.The atmosphere was healthy and loving.

Although people were very regular in posting,discussing and meeting they did have a life for real.Including me.Whatever happened in OI was forgotton right there and life was simple.
i am thankful to orkut iyers community owner pradeep who had this wonderful idea. I found amazing people to whom i could connect myself. I am sure that people from OI would read this post someway or the other so i am mentioning names of people who have influenced me and inspired me.
Prasanna- my best friend,my confidant :)
usha- my alter ego
arthi- a person who would keep any kind of secret :)
sara - a friend for life
Avinash and Vijay anna- two intellectual souls dewelling in a human body.

All said and done it is afterall a virtual world and things which happen there need not be regarded and taken seriously.





Sunday, January 18, 2009

AWAY..FROM HOME!

I wish i could fly,
i would come to yours arms and never leave.
Though i hurt you at times,
i promise i will never lie to you.

I close my eyes and i feel you near,
your touch so sweet, i forget my pain.
so much of me longs to be with you,
i left my heart there when i parted you.

I wish i could see you now..
i wish i could lie down,
on you lap
and sleep like once i used to.

I wish i never grew up
mom, i wish i stayed with you.
not so much to say..just that,
I LOVE YOU.

unraveled

this is a post of mine in one of my blogs..i posted it here cos i rarely use it

July 17th 2007

recently having a lot of troubles getting started with paper work for legal issues,i decided to write what i feel about the government malfunction and share my views. shifting to Chennai was never a problem. pack up..book ticket and pack down when you reach. but the settlement and immigration(sounds as if i am moving from some other country,but that's the word!) is always been a problem.1998 June 24 ,my family reached Chennai. being in school i were unaware about everything.after i finished my schooling i was aware of the fact that "ration card" is a very important document needed to prove that you are a legal resident! aware of the fact but still ignorant...though i could have done nothing about it.The application that needs to be filled for ration card or any other legal document is very easy....but the processing fee makes it complicated. The processing fee refers to nothing but the "tax" we pay to the government officials for doing their work. Is it that important for us to pay them for every inch they move our file?? A victim of corruption, like every one else my parents decided to pay them too. The initial amount the concerned person took and yet the file didn't move..now that is what you call as the HEIGHT OF GREEDINESS. In spite of giving several reminders about the card, calling them up and standing in the queue for the turn,nothing seemed to happen. The youth who aspire to change corruption gets his hands onto disappointment and nothing more. We receive a inland letter as a acknowledgment of the complaint and nothing else happens.Ultimately the processing gets slowed down. In a country where there are sellers..there are buyers. Or to be more specific there are buyers that's the reason there are sellers. The true freedom we seek is when we seek a nation filled with youth and people who believe in anti corruption, anti racism and equality.

WAITING FOR THE INDIAN YOUTH TO RISE AWAKE AND BUILD A PLACE WHERE WE COULD SHELTER OUR SOULS.!!

Wednesday, October 29, 2008

what have you done!

never did i think i would be this, what i am now.
never expected to turn into someone ,i don"t know how!
i feel so lost i feel the pain.
i feel like drops washed away by the rain.

so petty is my existence, so short is my tale.
unheard is my story,let me unveil!
locked up and chocked i keep my lips numb,
i realized what you are and what have you done!

i hate it but i take it.
not showing how it feels when you break it.
for all that's hidden is untrue.
now how do i believe if you say its just you.

a feeling of being alone in a crowd
takes away a breath from inside. i know
what you are and what have you done,
i know you can hide but never run.

given a chance to be someone
i would be you and see what it takes to lie and shun.
lying by your side i realize, i cannot hurt you or make you cry.
all said and all done, you are now mine and not someone's.
all i need is to trust you through thick and thin.
life becomes a battle we win.

Thursday, September 4, 2008

dreams...no interlude ...

i haven't been writing much for quiet sometime since i had got a life of my own to be taken care of. well, that"s not the true reason. i am running short of topics. everything seems to revolve around my dream of coming to us,and when i am here i feel so lost. For many of them (including me)US is / was a dream, an achievement. Not many of us had imagined life without family or friends. we are fantasized by the western world. To be frank i did not find America to be great. I love my homeland better. But there are certain things for which i simply love this place. one of them is "everything is personalized" i can run ,shout,cry,hug my loved ones,laugh it out loud and no one stares at me. I am completely myself! ever imaged a world without hypothetical situations? i am sure i have conceived a wrong word for a right statement! there can't be a world like that?

life had been very fair with me to give me what i always wished for. Though i waited for long,but was worth the wait. i walk all the way to college alone. people, i never ever had imagined of meeting are friends now. They care for me! sometimes i wish i could return back to my home where i belong, but is that the reason i am here today ? what did i wish for and what have i done? where do i belong in real? without having any idea of how life is gonna be, i am gonna struggle with all my might.everyone complains of being a loner...
but how am i alone when i think of all u guys out there all through?

this is all i say to console myself .